Episode 50 - Flippin the Script for our 50th Episode

Can you believe we are on the 50th episode of the To The Nines Podcast?! I can't either.

To celebrate, I wanted to do something a little different so I'm flippin the script and having my assistant Maggie Schneider interview me! 

She leaves no stone unturned with her questions. We talk fitness, motherhood, and what I would bring with me if I was stranded on a deserted island. 

I also share some of my latest big plans that you haven't heard before and exactly what I'll be launching in the next year! 

Thank you for being a listener and supporter of this podcast. If you haven't already, please leave a review!

• Episode 50 Transcript

  Hey friends, welcome back to the podcast. This episode is going to be a little bit different because I am not the interviewer, nor is it a solo interview, um, or even a solo episode. I am the interviewee. Um, so that should be fun for you guys. Uh, my assistant, Maggie's going to turn the tables and interview me for this episode of the podcast.

  So enjoy. me in a different role. And hopefully this will help you in your life. Um, and if you have any further questions, feel free to DM me on any of the socials. Ciao guys. This is to the nine's podcast. I am your host, Tiffany Wicks, a mom of seven who doesn't subscribe to the idea that you have to choose between your family and a career.

  I am on a mission to show the stay at home mom who has lost herself in childcare and co compelling. And the overworked corporate holdout who isn't finding joy and purpose in their career that they can work for themselves, making an impact in an income that serves your dream life. After leaving my nursing career to raise our family, I needed more mental stimulation, but didn't want to give up the privilege of raising our legacy.

  I've been in network marketing now for five years. I know the strategy and mindset it takes to be successful and to live a life aligned with your values and your purpose. Join me as I share my business tips, marketing mistakes, attitude shifts you need to space out some time for you, or ditch your nine to five completely and start working for yourself.

  You have the power to change your life. Let's get started. It's just,

  okay. Hi. Hey everyone. This is Maggie. I'm taking over for the two, the nines podcast today, and I'll be interviewing Tiffany. We decided it would be fun for the 50th episode just to do something a little bit different so that you guys can get to know Tiffany in a little bit of a different way. Um, so I'm going to be asking her some questions.

  We're going to talk. Fitness, a little bit of mindset, a little bit of motherhood, all the things that you know, and love her for. Um, I've been working with Tiffany for almost two years now. So it's, it's been exciting to watch her through this, uh, podcasting process. And it'll be fun to be on the other side of it to actually, uh, not be, uh, I'll be, I guess I'll be editing it, but in the back end of things.

  Wow. It's been two years. I can hardly believe two years has gone by. I mean, I just have to tell a quick story though. When I first. Interviewed you, um, to help take over some of the things in my business that I a didn't wanna do and b wasn't doing well. Um, I recall during the interview, 'cause you've got little babies, I've got little babies, and you were like, uh, hold on just a minute.

  And you had to run off and tend to a toddler. And I remember your face when you came back. Your face to me looked like, oh my gosh, did I just blow this somehow like, this is my first interview with this lady, but I thought. All right. I actually really want to work with her because we're going to understand each other.

  And when you had to run off to take care of a baby, that didn't indicate to me that you were going to be unreliable, that you were incompetent at what you were doing. What it showed me is that your priorities were in the right place. You had a toddler that needed help right then, and you were not going to put off your babies for the business.

  And I feel like that's how I've run my life and my business. And I don't know that I could hire a dude that wasn't a full time Like parent, because I feel like there's no way he won't get me. He won't understand if I miss a deadline by a day or two, he won't understand if my kid's been all up all night puking and I need an extra, whatever, like he just won't get me.

  So I have been so grateful for you over the last two years. You have saved my bacon more times than I can count and insanely patient with me because I am not a technology girl. Frankly hate technology. I am so stupid with it. Um, and I try, I keep trying over and over again. Uh, but that is just not the thing I love best, but I have adored how patient you were with me and my growth and all the frustrations that I've gone through working on growth and you've just been so patient.

  So thank you for that. Oh, thanks. And I remember like we both connected because we were both nurses before and I had like, I think I was, yeah, I was definitely still working my nursing job too. And I had a six month old baby and a toddler. So I was, and you were calling from like your garage, I think. I was in the gym.

  Yeah, in the gym. I just got done with the workout. So you had like six kids. Yep. You had six kids behind you and I was like, this is crazy that she can run a business with six kids. I want to learn from her. Hopefully we'll learn something positive. Oh yeah. Patience for sure. No. Yeah. No. No. No. But yeah, but I was learning.

  When I was starting to, cause you were one of my first clients and I was learning the marketing world and here we are now. So look at you, man, come a long way. Look at you. Yeah. All right, let's go. What do you have for me? What do you want to know? Okay. So we're going to start with a little bit of fitness and then move on to motherhood.

  And then I've got some rapid fire questions at the end, so that should be exciting. Yeah. Okay. So I know for me, especially being, I'm like nine months pregnant right now. So being in this season of life, little kids, like we were just talking about, I have a hard time prioritizing working out. And I feel like when my kids are around, Oh, I don't want to start a workout because I just know they're going to interrupt me.

  But you seem to just work out right through that. Yeah. You. Always have your kids in the gym with you. What is your advice to moms and other people who are like me? Any mindset shifts you can give us that will help us start to make sure that we're getting our movement in regardless of all the other chaos that we have going on at home?

  Well, you pretty much just said it. They're in. Um, I think when moms approach fitness as something that they do separate from their life, um, that's where you're going to run into problems because if you accept that your kids are just another fabric of your DNA, they're woven within your life, then you're going to have to accept that they're going to be part of your fitness journey as well.

  So incorporate them as much as you can. Now I've been super honest on social. I hate working out with kids. Like I would rather put on my grunge music. and make it really loud, lift really heavy and do some provocative dance moves in between bicep curls. Um, and. rather than be like, okay, we're doing set number five and then handing three pound weights to my toddler.

  But here's what I have learned is if you make something accessible to them, having it accessible becomes less attractive. It's like the, the carrot, you know, you cannot have that. Well, they want it even more. So if you're like, this is my fitness time, get away from me. They're going to be like, all right, that's exactly where I want to be.

  So if you just make fitness accessible, make it look like another part of your life. Oh, mom does dishes. She switches laundry. She fitnesses. And at that time. That's when I run around and play in the yard and occasionally walk up there. And I want to do what you're doing. Sweet. Here are your three pound weights.

  You stand over there and you give them their space. It becomes way less appealing. They just want to know that they're still accepted by you. And that what you're doing is also good for them. Um, you know, given that whatever it is that you're doing, isn't. You know, morally wrong, but I don't know a single fitness move that is.

  So that's the, that's the key is incorporating them as much as makes sense and making it accessible so that they want less access to it. I love that. And then you're just setting the example for them. And then the, yeah, I guess my expectations are always like, it's gotta be all or nothing. It's gotta be perfect.

  A perfect 30 minute uninterrupted workout or nothing. Right. And from a Perspective, it doesn't have to be uninterrupted. It can be broken up into multiple parts of the day. So there are times where the baby, you know, I'm 20 minutes in a workout and I'm like, come on, man, we've got like three sets left and he is just not tolerating it.

  So I'm like, all right, I can still do this. So I just. Put down the dumbbells. I put on a weight vest and then I pick him up and boom, I've got 45 pounds on me now. And I'm like, I will finish these squats with you in my arms. And like, there's always another way to do something and it's always figureoutable if you leave your emotions and frustrations at the door.

  Because you just have to accept that this is kids. This is what they do. They're not trying to sabotage you. Um, they're not trying to make your life miserable. They just want to be a part of everything. And this is just what happens. So I think the acceptance is probably the part most moms have to get to.

  Like, I'm going to be interrupted today. And then if you aren't, then hallelujah. You just got, you know, a free gift you weren't expecting. But accept all of it and expect it. And then you're not so disappointed when it happens. Right. Yeah. Letting go of the control. That's the hard part for me. Absolutely.

  Okay. So kind of in the same realm, one of my focuses for the last two years, since I stopped working in healthcare, I was working night shift. I'm sure you can relate. So like, yeah, eating, Breakfast sometimes was at 5 p. m. for me. So once I stopped working in healthcare, I've had a little bit more of a normal schedule.

  Um, so I've been really focusing on making sure I have breakfast every morning. And I know I hear from my friends, people all the time. They're like not eating till 10 a. m. Although you are very into the fasting thing, but These, a lot of my friends are just jumping straight into coffee and maybe they'll have like a granola bar on their commute to work or whatever.

  So they're skipping meals and then they're tired and they're exhausted throughout the day. And I've noticed when I don't have a good breakfast or I skip lunch, or I, then I'm more likely to overeat at dinnertime or after the kids go to bed, I'm like, give me those Oreos, whatever it is. Yeah. Um, I'm spoiled because my husband makes breakfast for us most mornings, but I do know that skipping meals.

  Yeah, it's very nice. Um, but I know skipping meals is a huge struggle. So what advice would you give about meal prepping and making sure you're eating enough? for busy moms especially. Okay so this is um, might be a longer answer but I'm going to try and keep it succinct. Skipping a meal is not really the problem so long as you get the meal in at some point during your eating window.

  So because As my program, um, one of the crux of it is intermittent fasting. Sometimes I don't even have breakfast until 11 o'clock and that in and of itself is not the problem. It will be how you have chosen or not to balance your breakfast. That becomes the problem. So a granola bar by itself is atrocious because it's basically all carbohydrates and a little bit of fat and almost no protein and protein does amazing things for your body.

  I mean, countless operations, but one of them is it, you know, creates a level of satiety, um, in your body and helps regulate your blood sugar. So if a granola bar is it, like that's going to be a problem. But if you were to eat a very large breakfast, and by the way, I know that, you know, culturally we've heard if you eat like six to eight times a day, it's better for fat loss.

  Uh, new studies have come out that have debunked that. It actually doesn't matter how many times you eat within the, you particular eating window. So long as you get all of the calories and macros in that you need during that day, it's almost better just to eat three times, three very large meals to achieve all of that.

  So how do you know you're eating enough? Well, that's where the plan comes in. You actually have a plan and you have numbers and you have targets. So if I eat at 11, like what time it's like one something right now, 1 30. Um, I ate my breakfast, if you will, at 10 30 and it was all macro balance. And I'm still not hungry and it's almost two o'clock and I've nursed a bunch of times I've been running around the house doing laundry and working and stuff.

  So first off you have to plan you have to have a goal in mind like how many macros and this is where I come in as a coach to help people is What is my protein needs? What are my fat requirements? How many carbohydrates should I be eating for this particular day or workout or whatever? Okay, so that's where the plan comes in mind.

  As you come to me and I give you all the numbers that should meet your nutritional requirements as well as like above and beyond that, what your fat loss goals are and what your muscle goals are in terms of building it, sustaining it, um, gaining weight, losing fat, whatever that looks like, I give you a target and you have a timeframe in which that target needs to be accomplished.

  So your first meal should be completely macro balanced. The rest of the meals, as long as you eat it within that, like you should think of it as like a bookend, right? The first thing you eat and the last thing you eat need to be perfectly balanced so that it sustains you for the rest of the day. So, all of the other nutrition in the middle, if there is granola in your meal plan, which there very well could be, then it's okay if you're just eating that with some fruits.

  That's not completely balanced, but you're going to balance it out an hour later. When you have a smoothie that's got peanut butter in it, or you know, whatever that looks like. I'm just coming up with random foods at this point. But, if you were to do that, it will balance itself out. You understand? So, book in those two meals.

  Breakfast, dinner, and then decide when you're eating, when you're stopping, and then get all that nutrition in the middle. As long as it all happens, and I tell my clients all the time, they want to know. What is the biggest priority? Is fasting the priority or is my nutrition? The priority 100 percent all the time without fail, get in every single calorie, every single macro I asked you to get in every day is going to be the priority over fasting.

  Love that. And I love how I love how your program takes out the mental load for people so that, that they don't have to think so hard about what they're making, but also the meals that I, at least the ones that I see you making on Instagram are very, like, easy to put together, like, I feel like we overcomplicate things and everything needs to be a recipe or, like, gourmet with three, with two sides and an entree or whatever, um, but I see you just putting together rice and veggies and chicken and that's, that's great.

  Balanced in enough. It really is. And I think as mothers, we, we get to a place where we're in, uh, decision fatigue. Alright? We have made so many decisions throughout the day that it's like just any, any more decisions, I'm out. So then they end up going through Chick fil A. Because they're like, I cannot make another decision.

  I cannot stand in front of my refrigerator. For another minute and try and figure out what the heck I'm going to put together that my kids are not going to revolt and not eat. And oh, by the way, I could go a whole rant on that one. Um, but in short, they will not starve themselves. I promise you. So put in front of them, what is balanced, what is healthy and what you want them to eat.

  And if they choose not to eat it, you've given them the power of that choice. Say, well, that's your choice. Sorry. I'm just going to go off on it because. It makes me absolutely bananas. When somebody says, do you have any kid friendly recipes? I'm like, what the hell is a kid friendly recipe? It's the recipe.

  It's real food. Feed it to them. Well, they don't like it. And. I'll bet there's a lot of things they don't like, like bedtime and hand holding when you cross the street, but you still do that, right? Because it's for their wellness. So why does their nutrition end up somehow being different? Somehow they have to like it all the time.

  Like, it's okay if you piss your kids off with a little asparagus, they're going to get over it. I promise. There is no therapy in their future because you served them one too many spears at far too many meals. Promise you. It's so dumb. I'm working on that with my picky toddlers right now. But I mean, your teens eat everything that you make and they are healthy and thriving.

  So yeah, it can be done. Even the three year old, you know, I can put a salad in front of the three year old. She'll be like, for reals. Okay. Because she knows she's not getting anything else and she will still, she's the only one that will throw a fit about food and we just let her like, okay, you're like, and I don't get worked up about it.

  I don't get angry about it. Like why would I get mad over you throwing a fit? That's not affecting me. In fact, I'll just move you over here so that you can do it freely. Um, and with all of the shenanigans that goes along with a three year old fit, I'll even allow you a space to do it in, but. You're not going to disrupt dinner and you're most certainly not getting anything else.

  So I love you so much. Have your fit. And I always tell them when you're ready to come back, I'm here and I'm ready for you. Like you're welcome back to the table. And then what do you know? Five minutes later, she comes wiping her snot off her nose, wiping her little tears. She's like, all right, well, that didn't work again.

  And she'll come sit at the table and girlfriend will eat her salad. There we go again, setting that boundary. That's the hardest part, but yeah, once you do it. Okay, so as we talked about, you have seven kids, you homeschool, you're running a business, which is really like three, maybe four businesses with everything that you do with the podcast and Scout and Seller and now Faster Way, but you don't really outsource a lot.

  I outsource a lot more than you. I have cleaners, I use HelloFresh, HelloFresh. I don't know, just trying to make my life easier. So, and you have a traveling husband, um, so how do you get it all done? Maybe walk us through a typical day, which maybe there's not a typical day for you, but what do you outsource and how do you know when it's time to outsource and how to ask for help?

  The time to outsource was probably yesterday. Um, however, I can tell you for myself why I don't, I don't get a cleaner for the home because I have this, you know, fundamental belief that I have to teach my kids how to do it and how to do it effectively and how to be part of a team. So, and because we're in a homeschool environment, it's just different than when your kids are gone all day long and then they come home and you only have.

  You know, three hours with them before you're doing bedtime routine. And if they have sports, they're away from the family again. So kids that go to school are away from the family for such an exponential amount of time that I can see the value in hiring somebody to do that so that you can focus on connecting with them as an individual.

  And then maybe on the weekends you're like. still need you to clean your room, um, or here's how you scrub a toilet. But when you're in an environment where they're with you all the time, if you took every responsibility away, um, that they may have some part in, then all they know is other people do that.

  I am not the one who does that. Yeah, I can hire someone. Yeah, I'll hire someone. And you know, I think, and we've talked about it. We've had a cleaner come in and do a deep clean right before we put the house on the market. So they know that people do that, but they also know how to do that. And I think that's the value for me is I have to mentor and teach so that they become competent adults when I launch them out into the world.

  Oh my gosh. Running. Okay, yeah, so that's what I love about, like, seeing you do homeschooling, is that you're just making it, you're teaching them real life things, so, yeah, people, and, and then you get to consolidate the actual, like, Formal education piece into such a much smaller amount of time because you're doing it like one on one with them.

  Really, truly that's, that's right. And the outsourcing, as far as that next question you asked us, what do I outsource? Um, I mean, you, you do for, uh, what you do for me is my podcast. You've done a bunch of Canva images and you do my email marketing. So I supply the content. Um, and then Maggie. Puts it all in the pretty format that you guys see when it lands in your inbox.

  And if you are not, um, on my mailing list already, you are way late to the party because that has a lot of great information, a lot of education that I put out there that I don't put out everywhere else. So we will put in the, uh, comments or in the link area, the notes, we're going to put it in the notes, um, where you can just.

  subscribe directly, um, onto my, my email so that you can hear from me every week on that platform. And, uh, yeah, I mean, that's really all that's, that's what, that's what I outsource. And that's crazy to me, but you, you amaze me. I feel like there needs to be more, but at this point, I don't know, it's kind of, it's going, so we'll just, It's going until it's not going anymore, going, uh, okay.

  So switching gears again a little bit. So I know sometimes you get some hate maybe for promoting your faith and your beliefs online. You're very like steadfast in what your beliefs are, including that homeschooling we were talking about. Yep. So what's been the biggest challenge or hurdle if there has been one?

  Because it's You haven't said that there was, but to overcome as you put your life on the internet and in this podcast for others to hear and judge. You know, I think the biggest challenge for me so far is having teenagers and understanding and respecting their wishes to not have a digital footprint of themselves on social media, but still having them be part of my story.

  Right. Really has been my biggest challenge is, um, trying to keep them separate, but they're not separate, you know, they're part of who I am, but respecting their up and coming independence, um, with social media and, you know, like I said, their digital footprint, as far as people not liking that I am adamantly pro life, um, that we are a practicing Catholic family, um, and that I have very strong beliefs that are unwavering.

  Well, that one's simple. I don't do it for your. I don't do it. I mean, I am always pleased when people are enjoyed with the content I put out and with sharing my life, but if you don't love it, well, that's okay. I've got a higher power. His name is Jesus and he does. And I'm 100 percent confident that he loves everything I'm doing.

  Um, and if it's not, then I would reconsider doing it. So I don't do it for you. I do it for the kingdom and I think that matters. So, yeah. Agreed. Agreed. And I love that you're, yeah, I love that your kids, first of all, they are the most polite kids after talking with one, one of your oldest the other day, she was like, yes, ma'am.

  And thank you, ma'am. Everything was so sweet that came out of her mouth. So that's the way it ought to be. But so awesome that you're taking them into consideration and that they don't want to be on social media because, yeah, my nieces and nephews are like all about the Tik Tok and it's just a scary world out there.

  Yeah, none of my kids have social media actually. Um, Nolan is my oldest at 16. Georgia is 14. I mean, the closest to social media she has is Pinterest. And I mean, she's on Pinterest because she's very creative. So she gets ideas for sewing and crafting and painting and drawing. And, uh, yes, there are memes on there that She and I have now created this little secret relationship where she'll send me funny memes that she finds hilarious.

  And usually they're faith based, um, and not making fun of us, but there was this one, I really have to link that, but it was so funny if the biblical explanation of an angel actually, like somebody actually saw it in person, she sent it to me and we must've laughed about that for an hour and it was like, heart calm and peace, and it was just like this big eyeball with like, Feathers or something around it.

  And this dude was scared out of his mind. It was like, Oh, well, no wonder everyone's freaked out when they have an angel appearance, if that's what it looks like. But those are the type of things that it's like, okay, I'm cool with that. Um, and she did actually, she's got Instagram now only because she's following my account and trying to learn what my aesthetic is because she's going to take over doing my Canva.

  And, um, editing the podcast while you go have a baby and be mommy, um, to number three. So, yeah, she's going to take over that stuff. So she said, can I get Instagram so I can watch how you do things and kind of learn what your voice is in the online space. And I was like, yeah, that makes sense. And, um, I, I see her account.

  She doesn't post anything. I see he follows and she's following. Faith based people, creatives, painters, artists, like, I mean, it is totally transparent, so. Yeah. There's a lot of good on social media. You just can They're absolutely It's easy for, yeah, you definitely have to set the, set the boundaries and Oversee that a little bit with the younger kids, right?

  Right. Well, younger, geez, 14 would hands down be the youngest. And the only reason my oldest two kids even have phones is because they have jobs to pay for them. That has always been a rule in our family. You will not have a phone until you have a job and you can pay for it. And you will not have social media unless it is relevant to your life.

  So at this point, it is relevant that she has Instagram. My oldest son, he doesn't have any of it. He has no need for it. It's not relevant. He doesn't even pursue it. He doesn't care. That's good. He's like, why? Why would I do that? So I think there is some value of having shared my life online and sharing with my kids how I run my business because they've seen.

  There can be a lot of good, but there can be an awful lot of outpouring of people's personal wounds online. Um, and if you're not mature enough to handle it, then it can become personal when it's not, it's never meant to be, should never have been taken personally, but it can become personal if you're not mature enough to handle it.

  Yeah. And it's just so different than how we grew up. So it's, it's interesting to navigate. One time you screw up now, someone will record it and then play it over and over and over. Yes. You know, ugh. I would not like to be a kid today. So all the negativity on there too. You can really go down the rabbit hole.

  Okay. So I know I've loved following your journey, both online and then of course, through our personal relationship. And I'm just amazed at everything you accomplish in a day, like we've talked about, um, and with a pilot husband who's away from home a lot. So what's next for you? We know you're moving out West to Utah this summer.

  Tell us about your vision for the next five years. Year, five years, 10 years. Where do you see yourself? So the next year I see my coaching business with the faster way growing exponentially. Um, there is a lot of people that need help out there and a lot of moms. And I think that I am probably the most perfect person to offer it to them.

  Because like I said, the reason I hired you is because I knew we would get each other. Well, that's the value that I bring for other Moms is that we get each other when you say this is difficult. I'm going to say, yeah, I know. Um, and then I'll probably say you got to overcome it anyway, because that's just what I do.

  I don't believe in excuses. I think there are reasons for everything, but I don't believe in excuses as the reason you're going to use to hold you back. Um, so we just find ways to overcome and I've overcome an awful lot. So speaking of overcoming, um, I will be writing my book, uh, this year, and I'm excited to get that out.

  Um, I'll have another interview coming up with a fellow author who is sharing her personal testimony, um, about saving her daughter and going through incredible, Gosh, life has really thrown her a crap sandwich, but she has made a gourmet bistro grill out of the entire thing. And I'm just amazed at how she just keeps overcoming.

  It's just incredible. Um, but none of this she asked for, and she would never want this to be her story. It is. So let's, let's share it. Let's educate. Let's inspire and let's change the world through our own personal tragedies and turn those into our positive testimonies. So the book is coming out. Um, and that will allow people to see my life in a very different way.

  Um, because you have an image of what a person is like, and I think I do pretty well with keeping things very real online, but let's be frank. I don't share anything. Every single thing that happens in my life, I share a lot, but I don't share everything because there are other people's thoughts to consider, you know, if, you know, Adam and I are having a difficult time, I might say, Hey, we're having a little bit of a difficult time here, but I'm not going to go into whatever he's struggling with as a partner because like, that's his, and I'm not going to go into, you know, my teenagers, personal struggles, unless I've talked to them because that's theirs, you know, and you've really got to understand how much of somebody else's story to share.

  To where it becomes, you know, that you're a part of it, but it isn't your story to share at that point. So, I will be sharing my whole story in a lot of honesty that I think truly two people on this whole planet actually know. Um, so that's going to be very raw, it's going to be very real, um, and it'll be very emotional, but I think it'll also be therapeutic.

  Um, And if you can get past the first chapter, which God has already laid on my heart, will be the first one, and it will be the hardest one. If you can make it past the first chapter, um, I think you'll come to love the book. And you're a great writer, so I'm excited for that. Do you have a name? Um, I Had a name, but then I think it might've changed.

  So originally I was thinking in my next 40 years, um, was going to be the title, but my daughter suggested, cause I said this the other day, just laughing because we turned on some rap music and we were, Like rolling down the street, listening to game paradise. And I said, boy, Maya, I said, I'm way too hood for a lot of my holy friends and way too holy for a lot of my good friends.

  And, uh, Georgia was like, that should be the name of your book. She said, I was way too holy, uh, way too hood before I was holy or something like that. I was like. That could be cute. That could work. Okay. So you've got some options. That'll be excited. Be a lot about, you know, how I found God and how he was working through everything, but it'll have a lot of real, real nasty stuff in there too, but.

  It is what it is, you know, as they say. I hate that saying, but I don't know what else to say about it. Yeah. All right. Well, stay tuned for that. That's going to be exciting and hopefully coming soon. Okay. So I feel like we got to know a lot of different sides of you through the, these questions. So this has been fun.

  We're going to do a few rapid fire questions. That'll just be some quick answers. Just so You know, if people want to buy you a drink, they know what to get you. Do I answer quickly though? No, go ahead. No, well, you can, you can take as long as you want. It doesn't have to be quick. Some of them are quicker than others.

  Some are a little bit longer. Okay. So I think I know the answer to this one, but coffee or tea. Uh, okay. So coffee. However, um, I have matcha every single day in the afternoon and I mix my moringa powder with it with a little splash of almond milk and a little dash of stevia. And I have a very specific brand of stevia that I use.

  So, and it will not be anything other than that. So, I mean, both, but I guess the first thing is I have coffee. You have coffee. Okay. That's what I was going to say. Um, and beer or wine. See, again, this is a hard one because I I've seen you drink those. Yes, I market wine and I love wine. However, I am an Alaskan, um, premier beer snob.

  Like up in Alaska, most people do not just drink a Coors Light. I mean, it's all craft beers, all very well done. And I love a craft beer, but I also don't love, um, Um, the extra fluff you can get by over consuming a malted beverage. So both, it really just depends on where I'm at. There's a campfire. It's 100 percent going to be a beer.

  Um, if I'm in front of a fire in my living room, it will likely be one. Got it. Yeah. And your Guinness helped your breastfeeding. Yes, yes, yes. It has benefits there too. Absolutely has. Yes. Okay. And are you a morning person or a night owl? Oh, morning. 110%. All the way. All the way. Yeah. Sweet or savory? Um, savory.

  Absolutely. I'm a heavy I don't see you eat too many sweets. I'm a heavy seasoner. So everything I cook is really saturated in flavor. Love that. Yeah. I'm definitely a sweet person. But It gets me in trouble. Um, okay. And what is making you smile the most right now? This. Besides me. I mean, this really, I love talking to people.

  Um, I love sharing stories. I love being an encourager and hopefully that's That's how people have seen me. Um, but what's making me grin these days really is watching my little row man. Um, he is little row row is so sweet. He's like smiling a bunch and he loves his little tongue. He's sticking it out and you know, he's starting to wave.

  And when we were in the airport, he did this thing where I've, my other kids have done it, but this is the first time he's done it where he's chewing on like the cord of my backpack. And then he offered it to me like, here, mom. Wanted to, um, and then I nibbled on it a little, and then he took it back. So this, you know, new beginning of recognizing that he's a separate person from me is starting to happen.

  Um, which means, you know, soon he will start the stranger danger and all that. But I mean, this new milestone that he's approaching definitely makes me grin. Um, and I'm loving watching my oldest son. I mean, really my kids, like, I really love every stage that they're in. There's been difficulties for sure, but it's just learning, you know, how you work with it, not against it.

  And so really, they just make me smile and can also make me want to scream equally sometimes every single day. But really, I love watching them. I love being part of their lives and I tell them every day how gifted I am that, um, that I get to be the front row audience to their beautiful lives. So true.

  And I love just seeing all their little relationships, like the little glimpses that we see of like your oldest holding Roman and Roman's such a fun age right now. I feel like that, like six months to a year is like, they're just learning so much and absorbing everything. So yes, he's so cute. He got kicked out today, but yeah.

  Yeah. Well, I just heard something go crash upstairs and I'm like, well, nobody's crying, so. I think it's gonna be okay. We're good. Okay. And what is the best compliment you've ever received? Okay. Uh, well, hard one. Maybe. Yes. But mostly when somebody says, here's how you've helped me. My heart just swells like three times.

  Because I really think that's what I'm here to do is to help people in some capacity, everything I've ever done in terms of jobs or, you know, seeking, um, fulfillment in my life has been being a helper, a helpmate. Um, so when somebody says I did this, I overcame X, Y, and Z, or I made this scary thing and I did it because you posted about it, or I did it because you talked about it or whatever.

  Like that is 100 percent the biggest compliment that I get. Yeah. Oh, I love that. And that comes from your nursing days as well, I'm sure. Um, what's your Enneagram? This isn't on the list. Eight. With a seven way. Eight. Yeah. Okay. I don't know about the eight, but I just wanted to ask. Intense. At my, well, and I definitely know myself and, you know, brutal honesty and eight at their very best is incredibly, uh, Um, uh, forward and really loyal, very direct, very loyal, high achiever wants to be in control of everything.

  Um, but that can also, and like I tell people all the time, I said, this is both my best and my worst qualities. Um, and I'm very honest about what my worst qualities are. And one of my worst qualities is that if you mess me over, you will likely never get a second chance to do that again. Um, and I'm very quick to cut people out.

  Um, if they are not. Um, adding the, the value, if they're detracting, not even so much adding value, but if you are detracting or you're hurting somebody that's within my sphere, like that's a bad decision because you will get X'd out in a second and it's very unlikely that you'll ever work your way back.

  Yeah, and you've got a big circle to protect, so. I do, I do, and I'm incredibly loyal and a ferocious sort of mom and wife, so nobody hurts my people and gets away with it. Yeah. Yeah, I love, I love your directness. It used to really intimidate me, but now I'm like, I appreciate it so much. And I wish that everyone could be a little bit more direct in life.

  Right. Well, and I think, you know, once you learn who I am, it's like, when you're part of my circle, then you know that I'm never going to hurt you and it direct conversation, but it will all come from love. And you will know that I will protect you to the end. Um, until there's a reason that I shouldn't.

  And then, oh, that's over, uh, but when people understand that they're part of, they're part of my ethos, then there's a, I think there's a level of security and protection where they feel like, okay, I can talk to her very openly, very directly, and she's not going to bite my head off because she loves me.

  There is a love and a mutual level of respect. And that's where I want to get with people is, yeah, if you're on the outside saying some craziness, like you're going to know, but when you're on the inside, there is definitely a level of protection, um, that I would never hurt you. Never intentionally anyway.

  And if I did, then people need to tell me, and then I will jump through rings of fire to make it better. That I have seen you do. Yes. Okay. And so let's do a light heart, a little more lighthearted one. So three items you would bring on a deserted island. Three things I would bring to a deserted island. Do people count?

  Um, I guess if you counted your whole family as one whole family, okay. If I could bring my whole family with me, yes, one, um, because I'm way too pragmatic, I would bring water, um, and a knife. Those who do, there you go, we got to survive your phone. Not a book. Okay. Not a book. I would bring a nice water.

  You'll have enough entertainment with those, those people. Okay. And then last but not least best piece of advice you have ever received. Hmm. Uh, here it is. And I say it to my kids. I say it often and you will know exactly what you need to know when you need to know it. Mm hmm. I like that. That's good.

  That's a good one to leave off on. Yeah, I hope my daughter just contributed a great one yesterday in the car while we were discussing a few things and it was so concise and so simple and it came from a 14 year old. Here it is. If you wanted to do it, you would. That's it. That's the end. Mic drop. Yep.

  Period. Walk away. It's so true. It's so true. Okay. Well, this has been really fun to be on this side of the microphone. So thanks for letting me do this and happy 50th birthday. Episode. I can't almost a whole year. Wild, wild. We, we made it. Who knew there's going to be bigger, better things coming all the time.

  Awesome. Well, thanks Tiffany. And we will catch up with you guys soon.